Meeting gay women can often be just as hard as meeting men. There’s a long standing joke that lesbians don’t date. They just move from one relationship to the next, ready to move in after just the first date. Though there is some truth to the fact that lesbians settle down sooner than hetero couples, that doesn’t mean you can’t date around. From lesbian chat to lesbian dating sites to the old fashion way, (in person) there are plenty of ways for gay women to meet.
It may sound obvious but the best way to meet gay women would be to look for them in place that you would like hanging out in. So if you’re not into bars or clubs, don’t go looking for them there. Try getting involved in the local lesbian community. There are often classes offered for varying interests depending on what your hobbies are. Just being around other lesbians will make it easier to meet interested women, as opposed to trying to guess when you meet someone. If nothing else, befriending other lesbians and lesbian couples can increase your chances of meeting someone by expanding your social network.
Be open to blind dates as well. Though it can be scary, take up any friends’ offers for set ups. Think of it as an adventure! After sorting out the minor details to make sure you’re compatible, go out for coffee and see if there’s a spark.
Even if you live in a smaller town and there isn’t a huge lesbian community in your area, you can always join a lesbian chat or lesbian dating site. Online lesbian communities can point you in the right direction or allow you to develop friendships that can result in real life meetings.
If you decide to join a lesbian dating site make sure there are enough members near you. Even if a dating site is lesbian friendly there may not be many gay women in your vicinity.